When we are young, if we are lucky, we never have to face the death of someone close to us. My first encounter with death was at 19, still a kid by many standards, but still considered a man. Was serving my country on a ship in the middle of the Indian Ocean when I…
It’s been a year since Evelyn was taken from us. I’ve been thinking about what I would write here on this day. I tried, but I don’t have anything left to say that I haven’t already said before. She’s gone and she’s not coming back. We are left to pick up the pieces and learn…
Related to the post I made yesterday on the six-month anniversary of my daughter’s death, I was asked what was the story behind the photo that accompanied that story. It was January 2011. I had been shooting seriously as a photographer for just over a year, and Evelyn had been in her third fashion show….
It’s been six months since Evelyn left us. Sometimes it seems like it was years ago, and other times it still feels like she will walk through the door at any moment. Six months is a significant milestone for us. It’s half a year, 26 weeks, 182 days since we’ve been able to touch, hold,…
This past Friday was supposed to be another milestone passed on this new life path without one of my children. myself, my family, and a contingent of supporters should have sat in the courtroom watching Evelyn’s Killer get sentenced to prison for his crime. Finally, he was supposed to be held accountable so that we…
The defendant in the case is attempting to fire his public defender and withdrawal his guilty plea. What this means: The judge with either: Grant his motion and give him a 60 day continuance and not impose sentencing on Friday. OR Reject his motion and impose sentencing as scheduled. I can’t begin to tell you…
Yesterday we dedicated Evelyn’s tree Today we are here in this beautiful park, near this beautiful lake to remember and celebrate the life of a beautiful young woman. Twenty years ago today, Evelyn came kicking and screaming into this world and over her short life, grew to be an independent, fearless personification of generosity and…
My dearest Evelyn, Today marks the day that 4 months ago you left us with no explanation. We still don’t know where you were going, what you were doing, or who you were with. There are times when I don’t miss your presence, but I think that is because you are with me. The times…
On Friday, we laid Evelyn to rest in Ft. Rosecrans National Cemetery. It was a peaceful and beautiful day, surrounded by family. Evelyn has a nice view of the San Diego skyline, the harbor, North Island Naval Air Station, and the Pacific Ocean. Evelyn shouldn’t be there, but she is. She is there because the…
A month ago today (June 20th), my daughter was taken from her life. The outpouring of support from friends, family, and people who had never met Evelyn has been tremendous. So much so that we are afraid that we will forget someone and not pay them the respect of a proper thank you. So, please,…